I always thought that love was a serious emotion used to express deep affection towards another person. But it seems that everywhere I look, the idea of ‘love’ is abused and taken for granted in movies and books. The reality however, is vastly different- falling in love with someone isn’t always the whirlwind romance social media makes it out to be.
Books and plays can create almost an unlimited amount of time within their pages and certainly enough time to develop a proper and realistic love story. Yet still, so many stories fail to even accomplish that, caving into societies opinion of what love is really like. Take Romeo and Juliet for example, one of the key tales that advocate whirlwind romances Romeo has just gotten out of a previous relationship and is utterly heartbroken. His friend suggests he finds another girl as a rebound; that is when he meets Juliet and their love story begins. They meet, fall fatefully ‘in love’ and when they can’t be together, they kill themselves. But this wasn’t a story about love. Because love isn’t instantaneous and brash, it doesn’t happen in such a short period of time.
This is in shocking contrast than some of the romances in the book Little Women. Some relationships, do not blossom because the characters realize that it is in fact just infatuation while others do because their feelings blossom over a period of time until they truly love one another.
In movies, I understand that it is hard to fit a long period of time in just 2 hours, so you can’t really give a chance for the characters feelings to really flourish. Yet it’s almost unrealistic for two characters to meet for a few moments then leave thinking that they are absolutely in love with each other. But a person cannot just decide that they are in love one moment and then they aren’t the next. Love doesn’t just appear when the moment is convenient. In the movie Letters from Juliet the main character meets a new man in her 1 week vacation in Paris. By the end of the movie she gets in a relationship with this new man. Here’s the catch, she breaks off her engagement with her fiancée. She was set to marry someone else, yet she simply dumps him for another, saying that things just weren’t the same and that she wasn’t in love anymore. Once again, the character confuses love with infatuation.
In real life, what the media shows in movies and the books they write is not what love is depicted to be.