5 Signs that they’re just not right for you.

5 Turn Offs
1.      Arrogance. Every girl likes a guy who has a little bit of confidence but there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance. No one wants to date a person with the ego the size of the star betelgeuse.

2.      Indecisiveness. I had one guy tell me he didn’t know how he felt about me. I’m sorry, but how in all things bubblegum, do you NOT know how you feel about someone.  It’s simple, you either like them or you don’t- I don’t understand how you can turn such a black and white subject, gray. Just tell me you don’t like me, I’m a big girl, I can handle myself.

3.      Hot & Cold. First you’re interested, and then you’re not. Do you like playing games? I don’t have time to figure out the puzzle called you. Just be honest, stop showing interest then leave me hanging out to dry. It’s like you can sense when I’m finally getting over you and then you enter yourself back into my life again and mess me all up inside. And you know what the worst part is? I let you.

4.      No Respect. Don’t belittle a girl while you’re with your friends just to seem cool. Cause you know what you look like? A jerk. Also, don’t pressure a girl into doing things she’s not comfortable with. Learn to accept the word No.

  1. And girls, if a guy ever uses this line: “Well if you love me you’d do so n’ so…” 

 

  1. Respond right back with this: “Well if you loved ME, you wouldn’t be trying to guilt me into something I’m clearly not comfortable with.” And just walk away, because you deserve way better.

 

  1. 5.      And finally, if he’s never there for you/ you can’t trust him. It’s obvious that if you can’t trust that significant other, then your relationship will go nowhere. If he’s never there for you when you really need him, and if he makes no effort to try and be there for you when you reach out, then how do you expect to have a lasting, intimate, relationship?

 

  1. So that’s all I have to say! (: Of course let it be known that this can be done both ways. I have seen all these things happen to plenty of guys as well. I only wrote it from a girl’s point of view because hey, in case you haven’t noticed, I’m a girl too!

 

  1. As always, xoxo

 

  1. -Ella.

Never Grow Up. Seriously, don’t ever do it- it sucks lemons.

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Gosh, I wish I was a child again. No worries, no problems, and boys still had cuties. When I was 9 I did want to grow up; I wanted to be able to sit in the front seat, stay up past 8 o’clock, and not have to sneak around just to watch some Inuyasha on Adult Swim. It seemed like everything I desired was only available to the big kids- and I was getting quite frustrated with missing out.

But now that I’m a Junior in Highschool, I don’t want to grow up. Yet it feels like every adult figure around me is pushing me out the door into adulthood. I have chores, I’m applying to college- and the stress  of trying to keep all my grades up while simultaneously keeping my social and family life in tact is more than just ‘overwhelming’. Heck, I even just got my permit! And it wasn’t up until 2 years ago did I realize that the thought of driving on the roads terrified me. I miss nap time,  and when math actually used to involve real numbers instead of  letters and symbols that represent imaginary numbers.

And I wish I could go back in time and tell that little girl (me) to just slow down, and enjoy things for the beautiful moments they are because time flies….and before you know it, you’re all grown up. But I can warn you. So just slow down, because a few years down the road you’re still going to have that opportunity to be behind the wheel of a car- unless a zombie apocalypse kills everyone (worst case scenario), your parents will soon give you more and  more freedom (even though it seems like they’re plotting to keep you locked in this cage called home forever)  and those boys who seem to be completely immature pigs will one day mature into an extremely kind respectable young man who will finally notice you for the beautiful being you are.

So what do you do when you finally grow up after all and you’re shoved with all these responsibilities? My advice is to take each day as it is, don’t stress it. You’ve got the whole world, just waiting to see what you’ve got to add to it. So why don’t you show them what you got?

With Love, Ella.